Shalom Wiebe
MSW, RSW, CCM
Registered Social Worker
&
Therapeutic Harpist
Support for survivors of coercive control - Music to reset the nervous system and promote rest and balance
Virtual counselling for women in BC who are experiencing relationship difficulties or abuse.
Welcome
Perhaps you are in a relationship that feels “off”, and you are not sure why. You feel anxious, confused, unsafe, or as though you are walking on eggshells around your partner. You wonder if you’ve done something wrong, if this is all your fault.
You may sense there is something not right with the way your partner treats you, but when you try to talk to your partner about it, they reply that you are too sensitive, or say they treat you that way because of how much they love you.
It’s possible you have read countless relationship books, asked your partner to attend couples counselling, and bent into a pretzel to keep the peace. But none of this is working.
You know this isn’t what you want in a relationship, nor what you want your children - if you have children - to grow up learning about relationships.
Perhaps you are thinking about whether you should stay in your relationship or whether you should go, and are torn about what to do, or unsure about how you will make it on your own.
Your cultural or religious context may add an extra layer of complexity to your situation, making it difficult for you to leave or causing you to face loss of community or family support if you decide to end your relationship.
Perhaps you have already left a difficult or abusive relationship and are struggling with feelings of guilt, shame, grief, and loss that no one else seems to understand.
You may be experiencing post-separation abuse and the stress of family court, all while dealing with a difficult co-parenting or parallel parenting situation.
I’m glad we’ve found each other.
You deserve to be safe, respected, and treated as an equal.
How I can help
I understand the grief, loss and disorientation that come along with difficult relationships, the stress of navigating the family court system, and the challenges of parenting after separation. I also know the pain of becoming disconnected from myself as a result of coping with the stress and trauma that are inherent to these experiences.
This is hard, hard stuff. And it’s exponentially harder to walk this path alone. I’m here to walk this journey with you. I will witness the pain and injustice you are facing, help you understand what has happened to you, and remind you of your incredible capacity to move through hard things. My goal is to create a safe and spacious environment for you to process your experiences and reconnect with who and how you want to be in the world.
