When Love Hurts, by Jill Cory and Karen McAndless-Davis, helps women who have been hurt by their partner make sense of what is happening to them and feel less alone. It is also a helpful resource for family, friends, and professionals who want to know how to support a woman experiencing or recovering from abuse. The accompanying blog posts are a great resource.

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, by author Lundy Bancroft, helps women sort out whether their partner’s behaviour is just “normal relationship stuff” or whether he is trying to control you. It is the go-to book for women who have partners who are angry, controlling, or unfaithful, and answers the 20 most common questions women ask about their partner’s behaviour. Available in most libraries.

In this warm, supportive, and straightforward guide Lundy Bancroft and woman’s advocate JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically and realistically take stock of their relationships and move forward. If you wonder if your partner’s behaviour is due to his childhood trauma, mental health issues, addictions, personality or simply his mindset, this book will help you gain clarity.

In Control: Dangerous Relationships and How They End in Murder by criminologist Jane Monckton Smith describes eight identifiable stages in which coercive relationships can escalate to violence. The author also identifies aspects of society and media that allow abuse to thrive.

Women’s experiences of trauma in the form of intimate partner violence and sexual violence often leads to intersections with mental health systems and medicalization. Psychologist Dr. Jessica Taylor examines the harm women and girls experience through medicalizing their responses to trauma rather than recognizing them as appropriate responses to abuse and oppression.

BIFF For CoParent Communication presents a method for dealing with difficult, hostile or aggressive communication from a coparent. Author Bill Eddy uses the acronym BIFF to represent the communication guidelines of being brief, informative, friendly, and firm.

Investigative journalist Jess Hill puts perpetrators - and the systems that enable them - in the spotlight. This book is a deep dive into the abuse so many women and children experience - abuse that is often reinforced by the justice system they trust to protect them. Combining forensic research with riveting storytelling, this book challenges everything you thought you knew about domestic abuse.

Research Emma Katz’ book unravels the questions: How does coercive control-based abusive behaviour work? How does it impact on children’s and mother’s lives? What are the untrue mythos of coercive control that need to be busted? How can we understand survivors better and help them to recover? This is an academic book based on Katz’ own research, but very readable.

Counsellor Lundy Bancroft reveals how abusers interact with and manipulate children - and how mothers can help their children recover from the trauma of witnessing and being subjected to abuse.

This book by Dr. Evan Stark presents a framework to understand violence against women. It delves into the strategies used to coerce and control women in personal and family life. An academic read.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T. is a nonprofit society that offers free support groups for women who have experienced abuse by an intimate partner. Find out more and sign up here.

RISE Women’s Legal Centre is a pro bono community legal clinic that provides unbundled legal services in family law for clients otherwise unable to access legal support.

There are transition homes across the province to provide emergency (first stage) as well as longer term housing (second stage) to women fleeing family violence in all its form. Find a full list of transition houses here.

The Prevention, Education, Advocacy, Counselling and Empowerment (PEACE) program for children and youth experiencing violence is a free, confidential program across BC for people between 3 - 18 years old who have experienced domestic violence. Based on psycho-educational methods (including play therapy for young children), the PEACE program provides individual and group counselling.

Ending Violence Association of BC has a service directory of organizations that support women who are being subjected to gender-based violence, abuse, and coercive control.

VictimLinkBC is a toll-free, confidential, multilingual service available across BC and the Yukon 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It provides information, referral services, and immediate crisis support to victims of crime including family and sexual violence. 1-800-563-0808

BWSS provides crisis support as well as education, advocacy and ongoing support to women who have been subjected to gender based violence. Their crisis line is: 1-855-687-1868

Dr. Emma Katz is a world-leading expert in how coercive control affects children and impacts mother-child relationships. She regularly publishes accessible and brilliant articles on her substack about coercive control. A must read.

When Love Hurts offers a lot of great stuff: a book, a curriculum for therapists who want to understand abuse in relationships, support groups for women, and many excellent online resources for women: articles, video resources, and blog posts on their website.

The Duluth Model’s has developed a number of extremely useful resources to visualize power and control, equality, post separation abuse, child abuse, and nurturing of children.

Zawn Villines is a feminist writer who publishes weekly articles on motherhood and relationship dynamics including abuse and control. She writes extensively about how patriarchy hurts children, stunts men, and constrains everyone’s ability to live fully.

Dr. Christine Cocchiola is a US-based social worker and expert on coercive control. Her YouTube tube channel contains many excellent videos, the bulk of which focus on supporting children who are impacted by coercive control.

Through Case By Case Divorce, a fellow Canadian mom shares grounding content on self care, healing, parenting, and navigating the court system while dealing with post separation abuse.

A project dedicated to supporting self represented litigants in Canada. There are numerous helpful resources as well as occasional trainings.

US-based family court strategist Kaitlyn Jorgensen helps women develop strategies and language to navigate family courts. Her instagram is a helpful resource with plenty of free information.

In this podcast series respected Canadian Journalist Anna Maria Tremonti describes her abusive marriage, how she escaped, and shares her journey of healing and strength.

Kate Anthony hosts a podcast about everything divorce. Episodes with Emma Katz and Lundy Bancroft are particularly helpful for understand the impact of abuse and coercive control during separation and divorce.

This is a series about love, abuse and power. Hosted by Jess Hill, this podcast looks deeply at abuse that happens in private, and in public. It seeks to answer the questions “Why does domestic abuse persist?” “Why do people become abusive?” and “What can we do to prevent it?”

Dr. Jess Taylor and Jamie Shrive dissect and discuss the world from a radical feminist, working class, no-holds-barred perspective. This podcast contains strong women, strong language, and strong views.

Tiffany Reese’s podcast aims to validate abuse victims and educate the public on important topics such as emotional, physical and sexual abuse and coercive control.

World renowned Criminal Behavioural Analyst Laura Richards profiles behaviour and identifies the red flags to prevent murders in slow motion. Many of her episodes focus on warning signs of coercive control and abuse in relationships. This is a crime podcast, about stories that involve murder.

A podcast from the Australian Safe and Together Institute. Focus on all things related to supporting survivors of abuse and coercive control.

Hosts Aileen and Dan take on the myths of the mansophere one ‘fact’ at a time. Do feminists just hate men? Is the gender pay gap even real? Content note: there will be sexism and swears.